It can be very hard to approach the subject of an unplanned pregnancy sensitively, particularly when many of your friends (inside and outside the computer) have struggled or are currently struggling with infertility. That said, I think it would be dishonest to say that I'm not a little bit, I don't know, less than thrilled at the possibility of having another baby right this second. After all, didn't we just decide not to have another so soon? Weren't the reasons for that decision good ones?
In addition to never wanting to hurt my friends, I know that if I continue to write here, there is a strong possibility that my children will one day read it. I would never want any of my children to believe that they were unwanted. (And this baby is wanted. We just weren't ready for it.) At the same time, I don't write my blog for my kids. I write it for me. And the main reason I am writing about my pregnancy so early (and I just found out this morning, so it really is quite early) is because I remember how hard the first twelve weeks were with my last pregnancy. I really needed to be writing and talking, but instead I was mostly crying and vomiting and hoping the baby wouldn't die.
So there it is. I'm pregnant. And my feelings are unclear. I know I will be excited. I'm just not sure when.
Congratulations! Until you are exctied I will be double excited for you.
Posted by: sarah at May 26, 2007 08:50 PM
agreed with sarah - i'll be happy for you until you straighten your feelings out. this is very exciting, even if it unexpected. so yay for you! :)
Posted by: Lara at May 26, 2007 10:36 PM
Mazel Tov!!!!!!!!
Posted by: By Jane at May 26, 2007 10:53 PM
...and is it the Old Testament or the New where they talk about God working his wonders, etc. etc. etc.???
Posted by: By Jane at May 26, 2007 10:54 PM
Surprise! Wow, big news! You are right there is a differnce between unwanted and not ready. And there is nothing wrong with being not ready. A sibling for Alliclaus! How exciting. All the best to you!
Posted by: Sara at May 26, 2007 11:14 PM
oh wow Congrats! These things always have a way of working themselves out!
Posted by: chelle at May 27, 2007 06:35 AM
Beth -- that was announced in a way that only you could do... :) Congratulations girl!
Posted by: Rebecca at May 27, 2007 08:29 AM
Well all this baby name talk must have been your subconscious in the works.
Once the shock wers off it will all make sense as to why now.
Hugs!
Hmmmm now I think you make all these wonderful blankets who is going to make you one? I have not and iota of talent in my hands.
Posted by: Jacquie at May 27, 2007 11:55 AM
Congratulations on this very happy, even if it is unexpected, news. I am sure that Alliclaus will love having a little brother or sister so close in age and your newest addition will definitely be coming in to a family ready to love him/her. Best of luck to you!
Posted by: Jennifer at May 27, 2007 01:11 PM
Per our conversation last week, you can't blame me for laughing, now can you? Can you?
I'm happy for you because I think in the long run everything will work out.
Considering my situation I am a firm believer that UnPlanned does NOT equal UnWanted. I will probably be honest with my daughter in that she was an accident, but will be adamant with her that she was always, always desperately wanted. You just need to come with a cute story like the one I have -- the Tale of the Golden Bangles. Hee. :-)
Hang in there!
Posted by: cagey at May 27, 2007 01:46 PM
That is so exciting...I am jealous! This would also explain your lack of weight loss so isn't that a positive??? Congrats! A will be an awesome big sister and you will be an awesome mom, once again!
Posted by: Jenny at May 27, 2007 10:27 PM
Congratulations! That is so exciting! I'm sure once you have a little time to get used to the idea things will be a little easier. I bet Alliclaus will make a great big sister.
Posted by: dee at May 28, 2007 09:18 AM
Congratulations! Unplanned certainly does not mean the same thing as unwanted, and I'm sure feeling a little overwhelmed is completely normal.
Posted by: bad penguin at May 29, 2007 09:47 AM
Congratulations! I know your excitement will grow. There is no shame in feeling overwhelmed. I am very excited for you!
Posted by: Laura Lohr at May 30, 2007 03:58 AM
Another person to share pregnancy stories with! Yay!
Congratulations, Beth. Don't worry about not jumping up and down with joy right now. Luke and I were dying to get pregnant, and I'm still overwhelmed by it all. It's OK.
Posted by: Frema at May 30, 2007 06:37 PM
A friend of mine just discovered she is in the same boat as you. Even tho' not anticipated at this moment, I will still say Congratulations!
Posted by: PunditMom at May 30, 2007 10:24 PM
I'm firmly a believer in "these things happen for a reason" -- so congrats!!
Posted by: Nancy at June 1, 2007 10:46 AM
Holy Shit!
Bethi, I am THRILLED for you! And for Andi! And for Alli!!! Oh my God!
Posted by: chatty cricket at June 3, 2007 09:41 PM
Wow. No that's a fine how do you do! Congrats to you. Indeed the excitement will kick in when the hurling stops!
Posted by: tracey at June 3, 2007 10:24 PM
Congrats! There's nothing wrong with being hestitant, especially this early in the pregnancy.
Posted by: Fraulein N at June 5, 2007 09:32 AM
Oh my goodness! I can't believe I missed this!
I'm excited for you, and I KNOW the excitement will come very soon.
Posted by: halloweenlover at June 6, 2007 02:44 PM
sorry for the late congrats. ;) well, it's not really late. technically, you're still very pregnant. hehehe.
but congrats. i'm back from vacation!
Posted by: suki at June 23, 2007 08:22 PM
Eek! I think finding out you're pregnant is overwhelming even if you're trying for it. Good luck and best wishes. I'll keep you all in my prayers.
Posted by: Jessie at May 26, 2007 08:31 PM