When my girl was a baby, if somebody complimented her but called her a boy, I'd follow up with the correct info in my reply. "Thanks! You know, we didn't care if she turned out to be a boy or a girl. She's healthy and beautiful - we're so lucky." etc. Usually they'd make the pronoun switch without a blip.

I think you just have to decde that one on your own? It seems to me that since alli doesn't have a clue that she is even being discussed, that it is really only for your benefit. i guess when they say something like "he is so cute!" you could say "we just love her" and leave it at that...that way they aren't offended at being officially "corrected" and you dont feel like you have had to knock someone out for getting it wrong...

My son had on a suit and tie once (last Easter maybe) and people still thought he was girl because I had never cut his hair. I would just laugh and tell them that he was indeed a he and laugh about the hair cut issue, trying not to make a big deal so as to embarass them and kind of shufflle the blame off onto me.

I haven't really had any problems with gender with Donovan. But on the odd occasion that a stranger would call him a she - I would usually just ignore it because correcting them would give them the impression that I cared about what they thought. Just smile and say thanks...I know!!!

I didn't really when she was little, if they asked how old "he" was, I'd just answer with the age, no gender identifying pronouns. When she got a little older though I used to just answe "oh she's (insert age here)" because I felt like it was getting a little ridiculous that people would think I might deck out my son in head-to-toe pink. You see, Lady is a baldy. A total baldy. And now at 14 months, she's JUST starting to get the beginnings of some hair. So people see the baldness and assume: boy.

I feel that I need to educate the general public- baby boys generally don't wear pink dresses and monogrammed bloomers. So I do my part one correction at a time.

My mom was always told how cute of a little girl she had.....bastards.

I usually go along with them because Stella is frequently dressed in androgynous clothing. But the people ask "his" name and I'm all, "Stella." Then they're sheepish. But it doesn't bother me and it certainly doesn't bother her.

Not having any children myself, I am never offended when I am told that I have guessed the wrong gender of a child. I would think that those wouldn't be embarassed either if you correct them. Like you said, who knows what's goin on down there. It's just a fact that AAA is a girl. You're not trying to drill your beliefs into others, so I would go ahead and correct. I really don't see how anyone could see her as a boy though. Her face is definitely girly.

I get the same thing all the time. Looking back on baby pictures (newborn), I would not be able to tell if she was a girl or a boy.

Tonight we were at dinner and the hostess said, "AHHH, how old is he?" She had on a pink onesie with a pink bow on it. I just said, "Oh, she is nine months."

I do not take offense either, but I usually correct them that same way.